The reason for failure when we try to change.
There’s nothing heavier on the heart than realizing things too late. And if you want to be better, to be someone completely different from who you are today, let me tell you something:
Tomorrow doesn’t come loudly. It doesn’t arrive with a bang.
It comes quietly, gently, in small moments that pass through your body, moments so subtle you might not even notice them.
We are designed in a world that praises speed, glorifies achievement, and constantly pressures us to “be visible,” to always improve, grow, change, and achieve.
But the truth? Life isn’t a race.
And you?
You’re not a rushed project.
You listen to a podcast, watch a video, read a book… and it feels like the whole world suddenly clicked.
You feel like you’ve understood, awakened, and enlightened.
And you decide, “This is it… this is my starting point.”
You push forward, reborn with new promises and fresh goals.
But a few days later, you fall.
And you slip back into old patterns.
That’s when self-blame kicks in:
“I’m a failure.”
“I’ll never change.”
“There’s no hope for me.”
But that’s not fair.
The fact that you chose means you can choose again.
Realization doesn’t mean immediate transformation.
Just because someone gives you a map doesn’t mean you’ve reached the destination.
It means you know the way.
And the way? It’s long.
It has winds, exhaustion, and sometimes you’ll take steps back.
Reminder: You’re not a machine.
You’re human.
Everything in you
Your thoughts, emotions, and habits need time to change.
There’s something I like to call “The Farm Theory.”
A factory produces fast everything is known and controlled.
But a farm? A farm has seasons.
It has droughts, rainy days, and crops that take a long time to grow before they bloom.
And you, like a farm, go through times where you feel like you haven’t changed
But deep inside, under the soil, something is growing, even if you can’t see it.
Maybe today, you understand an idea but laugh it off, not ready to act on it.
Then a year later, a situation arises, and you suddenly act on that idea you heard long ago.
That’s how life works
It doesn’t move in straight lines.
It spirals.
You return to the same lessons, but from different angles.
So don’t rush.
Don’t think you’ve lost everything just because you stumbled.
Don’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle.
And don’t measure your success by a few days of applying a new habit.
Measure your success by your consistency.
By your intentions.
By how often you come back after falling.
Measure your success by your flexibility.
By the compassion you show yourself.
Stop beating yourself up.
If you fall back into old habits, it doesn’t mean you’ve failed.
It means you’re human.
It means you’re trying.
And trying, in itself, is one of the greatest forms of strength.
Give yourself the patience you need.
Give yourself the safety that says, “Even if you’re late, no one’s going to turn their back on you.”
Be the first to embrace where your soul runs to—not the first voice to shame it.
Everything in its time.
And your time? It will come.